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Bias for action. Gets things done. Go-getter. Traits companies big and small look for. And for good reason, you're being hired to do things! However, action is a secondary step that often overshadows the primary step, direction.   Clear direction is the foundation that enables our actions to takeoff. Without it, we're stuck in the mud.  Striving for clarity is an underrated skill. Having the courage to ask ( seemingly ) obvious questions, and to check in, making sure we're all on the same page. "O bvious " questions are a low risk, high reward way to add value. At worst, you'll add confidence to our actions. At best, you discover a misalignment that saves us from a dead-end.  The more people, the more clear we need to be. The bigger the initiative, the bigger the risk of reaching the finish line, only to realize expectations were off.  Success is always uncertain. But we can be certain about what we want and what everyone's job is. Things that can be clea
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(Almost) Never Say Never

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The words "always" and "never" are so popular in daily conversation, despite few situations being truly deserving of the adverbs. 

When getting passed over for a promotion: "My work is always overlooked"

When arguing with your spouse: "You never do the dishes"

Always means at all times. Never means at no time ever. Even if rare, I'm sure there was a time you got a pat on the back and your spouse cleaned up after eating. 

We exaggerate to emphasize. To drive home a point. We don't mean to be dishonest, but to exaggerate is to say something false. A poor foundation for communication. 

If a co-worker's late for a meeting, it's unproductive to accuse them of "never being on time", even if tardiness is common. This breeds defensiveness. It's untrue and they can (rightfully) accuse you of lying. 

Exaggerated accusations breeds exaggerated responses. "You're always complaining about me" they'll fire back. At this point, no one is telling the truth and nothing gets resolved.

Start and end with the truth, be specific with your statement. "You were 10 minutes late for this meeting and yesterday's meeting". 

Point to the exact problem. Create focus and keep things clear. Simple, honest conversation. Less dramatic, more productive. 


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