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Bias For Clarity

Bias for action. Gets things done. Go-getter. Traits companies big and small look for. And for good reason, you're being hired to do things! However, action is a secondary step that often overshadows the primary step, direction.   Clear direction is the foundation that enables our actions to takeoff. Without it, we're stuck in the mud.  Striving for clarity is an underrated skill. Having the courage to ask ( seemingly ) obvious questions, and to check in, making sure we're all on the same page. "O bvious " questions are a low risk, high reward way to add value. At worst, you'll add confidence to our actions. At best, you discover a misalignment that saves us from a dead-end.  The more people, the more clear we need to be. The bigger the initiative, the bigger the risk of reaching the finish line, only to realize expectations were off.  Success is always uncertain. But we can be certain about what we want and what everyone's job is. Things that can be clea

Becoming a Better But-er





"But" - it's something we hate to hear after receiving good news.

"That presentation was great, but there are things you need to work on."

"I want to give you a raise, but it's not in the budget right now." 

"I love you, but there are some things you could be more considerate with."

We lead with the pleasant and wrap with the not so pleasant. This is unfortunate because we're conditioned to disregard what comes before "but", and place a higher value on what comes after - "The But Eraser/Enhancer Effect". Thus, we're constantly dampening our positive statements while enhancing the negative. 

Being mindful of this phenomenal, we can leave a more emotionally encouraging footprint by merely flipping the positioning. 

"There are things that you need to work on, but the presentation was great."

"It's not in the budget right now, but I want to give you a raise". 

"There are some things you could be more considerate with, but I love you". 

The literal meaning of the statements remain the same, only the emotional impact has changed. This is important. Constructive feedback is healthy and we don't want to discourage it. We simply want to express ourselves more positively, disagreeing agreeably by becoming better but-ers. 





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